columnist

DEC
2014

Pre-Wedding Cues

Publisher : Magna Publications - CITADEL Pune

Come November and festivities surrounding the nuptial ceremonies start to spread across the length and breadth of our country. The girl’s parents start planning a year in advance and seek professional help to put together their daughter’s dream wedding! From choreographing the cousins for the ‘sangeet’ ceremony to setting up a theme for the rocking reception party, Event companies take away all headaches of running around for the wedding arrangements. Outsourcing has become the mantra to creating unforgettable memories in enchanting weddings! But yet, no one seeks professional help to groom the ‘to be wedded’ couple which could guarantee that that special day of your life just becomes so much more enjoyable.

In an effort to look and feel their best I've seen brides & grooms try to do too much a day or two before the wedding and not enough in the two to three weeks prior. Everything is a last minute rush which ofcourse is unsustainable thereby leading to undue anxiety and worry. The end result can be a litany of problems that really could have been easily avoided. So here are some tips to avoid the wedding-day blues and feel your best.

Planning Ahead: Set a schedule that anticipates some of your most important health,beauty and sartorial needs. While ideally, you should begin 6 months before your wedding, 30 days is minimum for the most important self-care rituals. Mark your routines in the planner because the wedding-day beauty shouldn't begin on the day while she is sitting in the stylist's chair!

Hair : Great hair requires a little love and devotion. We all know that washing, blow-drying, and heat-styling on a daily basis makes for a messy head, full of split ends and "wispies" (those little broken pieces of hair that stick up from your scalp). Start repairing from the inside out. Indulging in a diet filled with Vitamin B helps bring out your hair's natural shine. Foods like fish, nuts, and eggs will give you a good "head" start. On the outside, an invigorating scalp massage and deep conditioning treatment (about 4 weeks prior to the event) not only feels good, but stimulates the hair follicles and adds body.

Face: When it comes to the best way to care for your face, there are many schools of thought but here are a few good pointers for common issues. A dermatologist can help those fighting a losing acne battle, by prescribing topical creams and oral pills, or administering facial peels to knock out bacteria and oils. Start seeing a dermatologist at least six months before the wedding...your skin will need to adjust to a new regimen, and your body to any new medications. If you're looking to bring a dull complexion to life, an aesthetician at your local spa can provide a series of facials that clear blackheads, slough off dead skin cells, and improve circulation. Don’t forget to drink tons of water before and on your wedding day to make your face look dewy and radiant.

Eyes:With all those late nights pouring over the seating chart, dark circles and puffiness are common afflictions. Since the skin around your eyes is particularly sensitive, be gentle... Especially brides to be should take off eye makeup with a water-soluble remover and keep rubbing to a minimum. A nightly application of eye cream, in combination with adequate sleep, will improve the appearance of dark circles and a cool compress once or twice a week helps keep puffiness at bay. During the days before the wedding, steer clear of too much salty food, which can cause eyes to look swollen.

Lips:For that all-important kissable lips, you'll want your lips to be in the best possible shape. A Vitamin E stick that combats cracks and creases that weather and nervous lip biting can cause should be taken care of much in advance. You should also exfoliate your lips at least once a week, to clear away dead skin. Wet a toothbrush with warm water and brush lips with a gentle back-and-forth motion. Finally, protect your lips with sunscreen, as the sun can leave lips looking -- and feeling -- parched.

Body: You can get your body in shape without lifting a weight or walking a mile (though both will help relieve stress and whittle away at the inches). From the inside, a daily multivitamin can work wonders on a range of ills -- from digestive issues to sleeping problems to frayed nerves. Vitamins also increase your energy factor, making wedding planning easier. On the outside, exfoliation is the name of the game, because it makes skin feel softer and more toned. Use an exfoliator each day, whether in the form of a loofah or a body scrub.

Feet: Sure you'll probably treat yourself to a pedicure before the big day, but you should indulge your feet in sweet treatments in the months leading up to the wedding. Good foot care starts with a little tough love,use a pumice stone or foot rasp daily to scrub away dry, cracked skin on heels and toes. Note that feet should be damp, not completely wet -- a sopping foot is too slippery to be properly exfoliated. Then treat your feet while you sleep, slather on a thick moisturizer and slip into a pair of socks, which will retain body heat and help seal in moisture overnight. An added bonus to these measures is that well-moisturized, cared-for feet are less likely to blister in uncomfortable shoes.

Make these techniques a way of life and mark my words that you’ll always be appreciated by your spouse. I’d like to now get into the specifics and share thoughts on pre wedding grooming and care for brides and grooms separately. Let’s begin with rituals for the bride:-

6 MONTHS PRIOR TO THE WEDDING DAY

Gym workout: The least you can do is to tone your body so that your confidence does not plummet during your honeymoon. Watch what you eat and hire a personal trainer to work on your problem areas.

Hairstyle: Choose your hairstyle as this may require time to grow your hair for the desired style on your big day. Also, what color you’d like to possess. This is important, so do some research and ask your hair stylist. you might want to try out certain hairstyles at the weddings of your friends to see which hairstyle suits you the best.

Facials: You may need a series of facials or treatments to resolve your skin issues such as acne, wrinkles or hyperpigmentation, which again require time in between each session.

Wedding trousseau: an all important and time consuming part of your wedding. You'll need to plan well in advance so that you have adequate time to get just what you need. It might also involve repeated trips to the designer for trial fittings so you need to have adequate time.

3 MONTHS BEFORE

Wedding Makeup: There are plenty of makeup and hair specialists out there, but you need time to research and book a trial with them. The trial may cost money, but at least you know what you’re getting on the final day.

Teeth Whitening: If you are on a budget, start brushing your teeth with hydrogen peroxide and baking soda months in advance to whiten your smile. If major whitening results are what you seek, then book an appointment with a dentist for a professional teeth whitening.

2 MONTHS BEFORE

Manicure/Pedicure: For long-lasting results, make sure that you become regular with this regime...It can be done at home as well as in the salon. So pick your option and start taking care of your hands & feet.

Stress Relief: A gentle massage or spa day at home are other fabulous ways to combat any anxieties or built-up tension. I recommend sharing this with your partner as many men would not do this for themselves, but they really enjoy it.

2 WEEKS BEFORE WEDDING

Shoes: Break in your bridal shoes, with long hours of rituals and walking around you surely don’t want any shoe bites on your big day.

Waxing: Get a "wax" if you're going to wax (eyebrows, bikini, legs, etc.) about 5 days before the wedding. Give your skin time to recover so it doesn't look red and patchy. Drink lots of water to help keep your skin clear and hydrated, and to flush out your system.

Wedding preparations always sound so exciting for the bride-to-be but it’s also a big day for the groom. It’s true, men may not have to spend hours and hours at the salon unlike their counterparts but that doesn’t mean they can’t get their share of pampering. Here are some important things every groom should do for his big day:

Shaving Bumps: Lots of anxiety and stress erupts the skins at various places and gives you an unclean shave therefore causing unforgiving bumps. Use a lubricating shave gel (not foam) on wet skin, and let it soak in for a few minutes to straighten the follicles. Then shave with a manual --not electric -- razor.

Excessive Sweating: Technically called hyperhidrosis, an over abundance of perspiration on your armpits and palms is often triggered by stressful situations (yes, getting married could fall into that category). When over-the-counter products don't work, you may need a serious prescription antiperspirant.

Skin indulgence: It’s time you care about how your skin looks for the most important day of your life. Don’t expect the photographer to clean up all your pimple marks with the photo editing software all the time. If you’ve had several skin issues like pimples, dry skin, an uneven skin tone, tanning and dark circles, then you could definitely look for suitable facials, peels and even simple home remedies to ensure your skin looks better. It’s best to visit a skin specialist to resolve tanning and pigmentation.

Work on your Belly fat: There is no better reason or occasion to look all fit and fine than this one — your wedding day! You don’t want to run through your wedding pictures later and wished that you had taken care of toning down that bulging stomach. Some cardio and weight training shouldn’t be missed out on. Or look forward for a power-packed jog every morning or evening or simply go for sessions of some martial arts or power yoga.

Fix hair issues: The absolute clean shaven or waxed look may tend to look feminine but you can definitely look neater by getting rid of dense body hair in areas like the chest and the arms. You wouldn’t want to resort to waxing or threading but you could look at other options. You can think of the permanent hair reduction using laser as it is a painless and safe option. Also it’s needed that your hair not only looks good but is healthy as well. A nutritious diet and regular head oiling can help you deal with thinning and falling hair. You can also opt for a hair loss prevention service after consulting an expert.

Facial hair care: To have a healthy moustache you could trim it at the right length according to the style you sport or opt for a different style for the glamour quotient. Don’t forget to keep your beard well-moisturised and use a moisturiser regularly.

Softer hands: You are going to be witnessing the best moments with your better half and you better hold her hands with much charm. It’s often that you find your hands dry and flaky. Until your big day keep massaging your hands with some coconut oil or aloe vera as these come with healing properties for dry skin and cuts. You could keep applying some petroleum jelly as a quick-fix as it helps moisturise your skin.

Nail care: You simply cannot afford to get on with the wedding functions with dirty and filthy nails. As much women care to go in manicures and pedicures, you too could make do with some basic cleaning. Keep in mind that long nails look great only on women.

Pretty Smile: Yellow teeth or chalky white teeth are just not attractive to look at. At an occasion when you are going to be having all cameras flash at you, you can’t showoff those teeth when you are not too proud of them. It’s a happy moment and you shouldn’t hesitate to be confident about your smile. What you’d need the most is some dental check-up as well as some cleaning to get a sparkling smile. Don’t forget to keep using a mouth wash from time to time to keep bad breath away.

Marriage isn't only a time to exchange vows but also is a time when you get to be at your best for a very special day. It's imperative therefore that both the groom and the bride plan well in advance so that you can avoid the pre wedding jitters. A bit of attention to detail and systematic planning will go a long way in ensuring that on your very special day you are able to devote your attention and energies only on each other rather than on other issues. So ladies may you have that dream wedding with your knight in shining armor and all the guys may you always take the breath away of your special lady.