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NOV
2014

Strengths & Weaknesses

Publisher : Magna Publications - CITADEL Pune

Let’s continue with our journey of self-realization and self-actualisation! In last month’s issue we stressed upon the significance of captivating communication skills, which are essential as well as imperative to one’s growth and persona...Now that we’ve understood the major elements towards bettering your personality in extreme details, it is time to step up the pace a little and absorb the remaining commandments as quickly and efficiently as we can.

Strengths and Weaknesses go hand in hand and it is substantially important to understand both these elements before you decide to do your personality make over! Knowing your personal strengths and weaknesses can help you a lot in choosing the right career or making good decisions in life. Because if you are able to focus on what you do around your personal strengths, you have the chance to create something remarkable, while making it look like it’s almost effortless. So let us delve and start this process of self - exploration.

Enhancing strengths and accepting imperfections is a process that has to begin at the very basic of identifying your strengths and weaknesses. The idea of sitting down and coming up with the things you're good -- and not so good -- at can seem daunting, but there are a few methods to try that can make the process a little easier. I suggest that you take assessments to help narrow in on your strengths and weaknesses. There are numerous tests available online that can measure everything from how you manage conflict, to your learning style, to your team orientation etc...

Define Your Personal Strengths:-

When you try to find your own strength, think about what comes naturally easy for you. And don’t choose attributes that you would like to have or that you admire. This is a typical trap. Especially avoid those which seem hard to do for you. Instead choose those that are describing your core. What is so obvious that you almost don’t notice it in you anymore, since it is like your very nature?

Choose those that fit your strengths and then compare them against each other to bring them into an order... It’s also important not to confuse strengths with likes. What you like to do is not necessarily what you do best!

Another way to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses is to ask others who you think will give you an honest, objective opinion. Ask people you know personally to share what they see as your strong sides and your weak side and write them down. Often others see perspectives, we don't see in ourselves. Get feedback from your peers or bosses about what your strengths and weaknesses are in the workplace. When assessing your skills, don't just think about those technical skills you've acquired; also consider your soft skills -- abilities related to communication, leadership, collaboration, creative problem-solving, etc. -- which can be just as important to others around you. In general, you should have a sense for what your strengths are around dealing with tasks, processes, relationships and communication.

Find Your Personal Weaknesses:-

Equally important as knowing your personal strengths is knowing your personal weaknesses. Those are attributes that you will have a hard time when doing it, it’s difficult for you. That’s why you should try to let people who are better than you do this. Everybody has weaknesses. It’s a natural thing, humans are not perfect. So don’t be embarrassed to look at your weaknesses. It will help you to improve yourself to know them.

There are probably more, so don’t hesitate to use them and write them into the comments. Everybody has 1 or 2 weaknesses that you have to keep in check. If you don’t, they will produce negative consequences and may even disrupt your efforts while you use your personal strength. Don't get caught up in the old advice to work on your weaknesses instead accept your imperfections. No matter how hard you try, it is unlikely you will ever be more than average in areas where you do not have an aptitude. Always working on your weaknesses undermines your self esteem since you will focus mostly on your deficiencies.

Witnessing and accepting our imperfections isn’t weakness. It’s an act of love. It breeds freedom and acceptance within us. From there, we affect all who are in our circle of life. When we can take a breath to lessen our self-loathing for our imperfection, we’ve actually dialed up self-acceptance. It’s not about narcissism... It’s about dignity and freedom... For ourselves and for those whose lives we touch.

On the other hand, working to develop your stronger qualities is self rewarding and motivating, allowing you to continually realize higher and higher levels of ability, achievement and success. Invest your time and energy in being great at something. Really great! You will be happier. And the recipients of your work, your spouses will reward you for your excellence. Focus on your strengths. Experience the immense satisfaction that comes with being superb at something...

Being yourself seems like it would be an easy thing, right? Just be! But when you’re someone who has lived their life seeking the approval of others constantly, it’s not such an easy thing. You have to attempt to move past years of trying to appear this way, wondering if people will judge you, or doing your best not to cause waves and avoid conflict. When you don’t fully understand who your “self” is, it’s pretty much impossible to actually “be” that person.

Improving your self-image, like improving any skill, takes time and practice. Developing good self-esteem involves encouraging a positive (but realistic) attitude toward yourself and the world around you and appreciating your worth, while at the same time behaving responsibly towards others. By working from the inside out you can explore yourself to the fullest thereby working on enhancing your strengths and accepting your imperfections towards a more positive self-concept.